YOUnique for Parents
September 15, 2012
It was a joy and a delight to speak about YOUnique at the Jubilee Christian Academy Parent’s Auxiliary or JCAPA. It’s always good to be back home to my alma mater.
I remember there were many times I would have been retained because of failed grades (including 4th year high school). After 19 years, it’s silly to have thought it was the end of my life. Grades are important, but it doesn’t always translate to success after school.
I taught the parents the 4 personalities in the context of parenthood. I shared the value of focusing on character instead of just looking at performance. If we leave our children with money without building their character, the money will destroy them. I also mentioned that we should love our kids equally but treat them differently, because obviously, they are different. They have different needs, different interests, different motivations, and different goals. Yet the most crucial of all is how we set expectations for our children.
The power of Expectation states that our mindset helps predetermine the results. Research shows that whatever you believe to be the response will help predetermine the outcome.
Unfortunately, people hung invisible numbers on our foreheads. What numbers were hung on you?
As a parent, hanging numbers on our children’s head — based on performance — is a surefire way of sabotaging our kid’s future. It’s time for us to erase any figure and start treating them as our life’s milestones.
I heard once that “Children are not things to be molded, but people to be unfolded.” How true =)